Week 3 question 2

I think communicate is a big game at times between people! I have to use myself as an example. In relationships with boys, I tend to play a lot of games. I try not to, but I just end up doing it. One evening I called my boyfriend and he asked me to come over, but I felt like he didn't really want me to. As much as he was asking me to, I just didn't believe him. So I in turn played a communication game which was me saying no it's OK I got a lot to do anyways. The funny thing was that when I got off the phone, I was incredibly sad. I really wanted to see him, but couldn't;t speak my truth because I didn't want to be vulnerable with him. I think the pragmatic model explains how we as humans do communicate and play games instead of speaking our truths. You can see a pattern in a game and that's how u can predict what people will do in the pragmatic model. I think the flaw with this notion is it supports people not being real with themselves. If I would have been real that night my boyfriend wanted to see me, I would of told him how I truly felt. But something inside of me told me no, don't be real with someone who doesn't care. It is sad that I even talk to myself like that. That is a pattern for me! I almost always keep a wall up and it is a predictable pattern and many other people do it as well.